HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

Verbal Communication

  1. Would you ever consider changing your given legal name? Which characteristic of language is most important to supporting your position? If you are married or if you got married, would you be willing to change your last name to your spouse’s? Would you consider hyphenating your name after marriage? Why or why not?
  2. Review the four characteristics of cooperative verbal communication from the chapter text. Which of the four do you believe you already follow? Which area could use some improvement? What steps can you take to improve?
  3. What is your experience with deceptive communication in online environments? Do you believe people often provide false information about their backgrounds, professions, appearances, and gender? Recount an experience in which another person used language deceptively. What were the consequences?
  4. What personal idioms do you use within your close relationships (family, friends, romantic partners)? Which relationships have the most idioms? the least? What conclusions can you draw about the relationship between idioms and intimacy?
  5. What is your native tongue? How does this language connect you culturally with others who speak it? In what ways does the language you speak distance you from people who speak another language? (Based on the Self-Reflection question on p. 180.)
  6. Ludwig Wittgenstein once noted, “If we spoke a different language, we would perceive a somewhat different world.” What do you think he meant by this? Provide an example that supports your viewpoint.
  7. Explain a recent situation in which you reacted defensively. Which of the four types ofdefensive messages did you use to respond? What attributions did you make about the other person’s suggestion, advice, or criticism? What were the results of your response?What could you do differently next time? (Based on the Self-Reflection question on p. 199.)
  8. It is estimated that by the year 2100, 50 percent of the world’s 7,000-plus languages will be extinct. English is in no danger of disappearing anytime soon, so if you are a native English speaker, you might feel that language extinction does not affect you. However,why might you care if languages die out? What might be lost? Can you imagine how you would feel if English were endangered?
  9. Complete the Self-Quiz “Test Your Deception Acceptance” on page 204. What is your reaction to your score? How does it make you feel when you are deceived?7. Explain a recent situation in which you reacted defensively. Which of the four types of defensive messages did you use to respond? What attributions did you make about the other person’s suggestion, advice, or criticism? What were the results of your response?
    What could you do differently next time? (Based on the Self-Reflection question on p. 199.)