HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

Self Concept

  1. What could others learn about you by knowing the kinds of television programs you watch, the types of Web sites you visit the most, and the genres of music you enjoy? Do you believe the media influences how we see ourselves?
  2. Of the four attachment styles discussed (secure, preoccupied, dismissive, fearful), which one describes your style? Provide an example of a current relationship to support your description.
  3. Describe a time when you lost face and were embarrassed in a situation. What did you do to restore face, and how does your response compare with the steps outlined in the chapter?
  4. Identify a label (positive or negative) that affects how you see yourself. What kind of impact has the label had on your self-concept and how you present yourself in relation- ships?
  5. Examine all the elements of how you present your self online (photos, personal profile, videos, comments, blogs, etc.). If a current or future employer were to use social media to investigate you, what impressions would they form about you? Would they discover any- thing that might cause them to question whether they should hire you? What, if anything, might you change?
  6. According to the social penetration theory, there are many layers of the self that we share or disclose to others. However, the rate at which we share isn’t consistent. Sometimes people share too much information too soon. This may result in alienation. Has “too much too soon” ever been a reason for terminating one of your relationships? If so, explain what happened. If not, how do you think you would deal with a friend or date who shared too much early in the relationship? What topics would you consider to be “too much too soon”?