HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

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Naming the Change

My name has always been a struggle for other’s to pronounce and many times did i think about changing it to something simple. “Azucena” is not a common name, well at least that’s what i think. Although i liked my name so much i had the thought that if it changed it would be easier for people to pronounce. But as time passed I  realized how unique my name is and how much i enjoy having my name, also it is a good way to start a conversation. I love my name and i am able to identify with it. it is a Hispanic name which translates to lily in the English language. Azucena’s are flowers and so am I. I’m a beautiful part of nature. After my whole name change faze i realized how nothing is ever wrong with the name you are given and you have to learn to love it. The only occasion i would change my legal given name would be if i get married. I believe that the moment you get married a new faze of life is starting, and you are no longer the person you used to be. You united you name to someones other to begin living with them, as their other half and together being completed. So yes i would change my name in that occasion. However, other than that i would not. I have now became so identified with it that it would be so hard to change it for anything else. Hyphenating is something I would never consider, and it is just because of what i believe the whole marriage thing means. To me hyphenating a name is like not wanting to let go of the past. or not being ready for the next faze in life. That is my personal opinion, others may have different thoughts about the subject.

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The Art of Langauge

My native tongue that I was raised from the beginning is Spanish but only the basic. My family wanted to make sure I was going to learn all my family’s languages so I could communicate with my relatives without any challenges. As I grew I started leaning South American and Mexican Spanish with a little of Vietnamese. These languages have helped communicate and learn about my culture and their traditions when I spend limited time with them. It’s a really beneficial tool because you can easily learn and communicate without worrying you will be misunderstood or confused about what I’m trying to state.

Not only has language has helped communicate with my family it has also helped communicate with people from society as well. An example would be when I decide to go to a new area or city to explore, the first thing I would do is I would communicate with people or friends if what are there experiences `they had and what would they recommend about the place. This helps me because I can organize and plan where, what, and when I should go so it can be an amazing first experience of the place. Not only do I use communication to explore but also to learn knowledge that I may be struggling with as an example if I know I struggle in a certain subject in one my classes instead going to CLC or asking a friend I would talk to my professor or a person I know that attends the same class. The language is an important tool it helps you learn, share, and connect with others by building a strong relationship as intimate or best friends.

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Verbal Communication

I wouldn’t consider changing my given legal name for several reasons, but one of the primary reasons is that I like my name. My name was purposefully spelled differently than the usual way, my parents have told me, which at times can make it difficult when trying to spell my name out to people and fill out official forms. And I would rather add another last name onto my own and use two last names than adopt a different last name, if necessary. I would prefer this because last names can carry some importance and can be interesting with discovering one’s heritage or ancestry.

My native tongue, also known as a first language, is English. The ability to fluently speak English enables me to communicate ideas efficiently with other people who share English as their first language. I’ve learned from my Spanish classes that it can be more difficult to communicate with people who do not speak English as their first language. Especially when it comes to explaining more complex ideas or trying to understand someone else’s accent can even be challenging at times. And there has been several times in my classes were there was a foreign exchange student learning Spanish as their third language and English was their second language. So there were more cultural differences and an additional layer of translation necessary for effective communication. The more basic parts of communication were still quite easy, but certain parts were more challenging and took extra time and patience.

My score on the Self-Quiz ‘Test your Deception Acceptance’ rates me to have moderate deception acceptance, which would be someone who believes deception is acceptable under certain circumstances. And while I do think that deception is wrong in the majority of instances, I believe in certain circumstances it can be the right thing to do.

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One for Four

In cooperative verbal communication there are 4 characteristics that affect the flow of the conversation. These four are informative, honest, relevant, and clear. Being informative is having the ability to present any information that is relevant to the topic of conversation and to be able to avoid being too informative. Which concise to disclosing information that is unrelated to the conversation. Being honest is to be truthful in conversation. It also means to not tell people about information others wish not to be disclosed. When honesty is broken in a conversation, it leads to confusion and false information to be spread. To be relevant is to be able to make contribution to a conversations by keeping it on the same topic. Being clear means to be straightforward and not ambiguous. These four characteristics all coexist and lean off one another. But everyone tends to have an issue with one or more and tend to be strong in using others. Out of the four, I believe the one I’m able to follow the best is to be honest. For me when someone confides in me something personal I would 99% of the time keep it to myself. The only time I would say anything to someone else about it is when there is harm being done. Either that harm be self-inflicted, caused by someone else, or is being caused to someone. But the one I need to improve on is being clear. At times I have difficulty in speaking and tend to speak fast as well. As a result words are unable to come out properly to be easier to understand. So I tend to use vague language to help get the point across instead. This has lead to some misinterpretations of what I actually meant. I would be able to improve on this characteristic by by speaking out more often, which would improve my speaking, and to slow down when talking. Slowing down would allow me to articulate the words better.