Assuming I am an advice columnist for a college newspaper, one of my readers needs tips on how to manage a “friends-with-benefits” relationship, I would have a lot to give. First and far most, they say that friends are suppose to be people that are just like family. They have your back through thick and thin no matter what the circumstances are. The love is suppose to be unconditional and you should never betray a friend. In the United States, there are many people who call themselves a “friend” say they have friends, but truth be told it is all a lie because friends are not made off benefits, and that is what we have here in the U.S.
American friendships are based off what individuals can do for what another, instead of genuinely liking to hang out because of they are. For example, Crystal wants to friends with Maria because she is popular and has all the oranges for lunch. Maria wants to be popular too and wants to eat oranges too which triggers her to grow a bond with Maria. Now, Maria may not want to be friends with Crystal because she doesn’t have oranges and is not as popular as she is. Factors like this always form when people are looking for benefits in a friendship. It could even go as far as, another kid wanting to be friends with Maria, but gets rejected. Even though, Maria and that other kid share something in common because they both don’t have oranges Maria might not have wanted to be friends considering the fact that this kid has no oranges to give. There have been many generations who believe that if an individual can’t contribute to their success, then they can’t be around them at all, so there’s no point in being friends. however, what about the times when you just want to have fun, when you don’t have nothing to offer, or when you need shoulder yo cry on, what friend is going to be around then.
With all that I mention, I think people just can not manage a “friends-with-benefits” relationship because it is impossible; they aren’t really friends. Benefits usually is strictly about business and with business people can’t be friendly. That is just how society works.