HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

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Self Concept Prompt 1

I watch many different television shows, having a Netflix and all so it is not a surprise that I can get some of my personality from the shows I watch. I watch many shows from The Office, Parks and Recreation, That 70’s Show, Portlandia, Friends, and so much more. I normally watch the comedic type of shows as listed, but on occasion I will watch things like Law and Order SVU, Criminal Minds, How to Get Away with Murder, The Fosters, but just for the drama. I believe these shows can reflect on who I am. The comedic shows I listed first is shows I go back to, to watch again and again. People normally see me as the more positive type of person but also tend to be awkward and closed off like many of the characters in the shows. I can place myself as a character in many of the shows I watch. I watch the more dramatic shows when I need a boost of it, although not often I do go back to it.

I don’t tend to go onto many websites unless you include iLearn as one but if you count it, I definitely go on many different types of media apps on my phone. Such as Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and Messenger (Facebook’s messaging app). I do believe these types of media can influence how we see ourselves since we can compare ourselves to anyone else on media. It can be good or bad depending on how you view  it. You can find people going through odd diets and question if you should go on it too, but also see that it can be super ridiculous by the way the person views it. Although sometimes bad influence, media can still be positive to reach out for movements like #metoo, daca, and black lives matter. It can make a person more active in their community and see themselves in a more positive light.

My genre in music is not too specific, I am not very particular with music. I like to explore new music but at the same time stick with what I know. So I guess this can reflect on me by showing that I am more of an adventurous but still like to have what is familiar with me.

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Self-Concept Prompt #1

I believe that knowing the kind of media that a person enjoys can reveal a lot about them. Of course, it is also true that many people may enjoy the same content for different reasons, and thus, may have two completely different views. However, understanding what someone likes and why they like it can help you understand their train of thought, possible morals or values, or how they might perceive something. For example, my YouTube feed consists of many different kinds of videos about different hobbies. This mostly implies that I like trying out different things on my free time. I don’t watch much TV other than the news because I don’t really care about modern trends and reality shows. I have a pretty broad, yet immature sense of humor. I browse reddit day to day with all kinds of different threads, not really centered on any one kind of topic. Other than TV, I watch mostly anime because it has humor that can’t be replicated in other shows (like amusing faces or reactions), and it also has a broad range of genres to choose from. I like pretty much all genres except for drama. My music tastes, unlike the rest of my preferred media, is rather specific. I listen mostly to rock music, but I listen to some electronic. Most modern mainstream music I don’t particularly care for like pop or rap, and I assume that to be because I have a fairly reserved personality. I’m not very social, never mind a party goer. That being said, party music is not up my alley. Rock music is generally laid back and calming, so it works well for me. Rock probably stands out to me also because I really enjoy when it sounds like an artist has a lot of passion for what they do. The passion more or less inspires me to get something done. When I want energy, I usually listen to some Eurobeat to get myself up and around. Personally, the media doesn’t really influence how I see myself. Sure, it may set up expectations for what “good looking” might be, but at the end of the day, if you can’t connect with the people around you, then looks are the last thing you should be concerned about. More than anything else though, I think it’s important that people care for themselves first. There came a point some time ago where I stopped caring about what others thought of me. After all, it’s not MY obligation to impress others. To be a kind person, sure, but not to impress. That goes for media too. I just do what works for me because it makes life just that much easier.

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Self-Concept: Prompt 1

If you were to know the type of shows, websites, and music I’m interested in, you’d know that I’m into a decent variety of entertainment. I can watch SpongeBob or Breaking Bad, I can browse weird memes on Reddit or teach myself a programming language on Codecademy, and I can rock out to metal or enjoy the soothing sound of classical music.

For the most part, I’m really into the crime/superhero genre of films and shows. I especially like when the focus is centered on a criminal mastermind, villain, or antihero. Something about their dark, tragic stories are always much more fascinating than the archetypical good guy. A close second as far as genres go would have to be comedy. Shows like Friends, The Office, and Parks & Rec. never fail to make me laugh.

My web browsing is where things get a little weird. It occasionally consists of self-teaching programming languages on Codecademy but is primarily centered around memes. Whether it’s through Facebook, Instagram, or Reddit, I always get my daily meme dosage. What type of memes do I like? In short: the really weird ones. Sure, I occasionally indulge in wholesome memes, but the real fun is in the ones that I wouldn’t share with a stranger.

As most people, my choice in music is heavily influenced by what I’m doing or my mood. If I’m studying or want background music, I’ll put on some relaxing Lo-Fi Hip Hop or classical music on Spotify. If I’m pumped up or working out, I’ll play some classic rock or metal from my personal library. If I’m feeling it, I’ll even play some Beethoven and Slayer back to back (10/10 highly recommend if you want to go deaf).

While I’m the type of person that tries not to let media influence my self-perception, I believe that it inevitably influences all of us for better or worse—whether it be consciously or not. To an extent, however, media has as much influence in our lives as we let it. Just because you see a celebrity you like expressing their opinion, for instance, doesn’t mean you should worship them and adopt their entire belief system because of their status or how they portray themselves through media. It’s up to us whether we let the media damage us or ignore its negativity and move on with our lives.

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Self-Concept (Prompt #1)

I do not watch many television programs, but the ones I do watch have to have complex, strong, and relatable characters. My all time favorite tv show is Game of Thrones. The show has it all. From the intricate characters to the gorgeous costumes, I fell in love with its grandeur. For those who do not watch it, it takes place in another world filled with magic, mythical creatures, kings, and queens. It transports me into that world every time I watch it; that is why I love it so much. I like to imagine a completely different world than the one we live in. The characters are multidimensional and nothing is black and white. In my opinion, it is all about the people in the shows and movies. If they can make me feel sympathetic towards them or make me root for them, then it is a show worth investing time into.

My favorite character in GOT is Daenerys Targaryen, a strong female lead. She defies the phrase “damsel in distress”. Just when everyone underestimates her, she rises from the ashes of fire stronger than ever and fights for the Iron Throne. I could write forever about this tv show, but the main point is that I love strong characters, female or male. I value strength in all its forms (physical, mental, etc…), imagination, and compassion. I mainly watch tv shows and movies because I like to step into the shoes of the characters and imagine I am them. Sympathy and compassion play a huge role in this. If I can’t sympathize or relate to the people in the stories, I quickly lose interest; there is no point in watching them if I do not care for them.

If you were to look at my iTunes playlist you would quickly come to the conclusion that I am a sucker for romance. Most of the songs I listen to are either slow, heartfelt songs or about love. For a hopeless romantic like me, I enjoy listening to those sappy love songs most people would find disgustingly cheesy. I love music that pulls at your heart strings and songs that make you cry a little bit (the good kind of cry) because it is so achingly beautiful. Initially, I did not prefer to show people how much of a hopeless romantic I was, but now I do not attempt to hide it. I love love.

The media can greatly influence us and our self-image if we let it. It takes a certain amount of strength to rise above the noise and bombardment of the media’s unrealistic ideals. If you accept the societal pressures that are around us, it can destroy your self-esteem. The media can deprive you of your true essence and make you feel incomplete. For example, it displays heavily photoshopped images of women demonstrating that this is the way all women should look like. However, it can also motivate you to improve yourself by spotlighting your favorite role models. I see the media as a tool; you can choose to let it damage you, improve you, or you can straight up ignore it. In general, however, the media influences our self-image and esteem in a negative manner.


Self Concept (#4)

One label that people would often use for me, especially when I was younger is “shy” or the “quiet girl”.  When I was around age 7 or 8 I used to be much more expressive around others, but due to moving around a lot which made me lose friends from school, and my parents’ constant battles in court – I became more withdrawn. In my opinion, I believe this is partly due to the fear of losing more friends so I would not establish close relationships because I knew I would just move away again. It was more of a subconscious thing, I still had friends – just not close or great ones. The label started around 3rd or 4th grade, I would not talk a ton so I became the “quiet girl”. This began to bug me more in middle school when classmates did not take the time to learn my name and to get my attention would call “Hey, shy girl”. I disliked this label because I felt that I was not “quiet”, I just didn’t have anything to say, so I didn’t say anything. It made me feel like an outcast and I began believing it, despite the fact I had strong beliefs and views and enjoyed talking about a lot of things. The label got to me and I think this actually led to me speaking softer, due to lack of confidence or a fear no one would listen. For a lot of my life I have struggled with social anxiety, whether it came from the label or not – it certainly did not help with it. Nowadays I work to speak louder. Social interactions take a lot out of me, and are scary sometimes as I don’t know what to say, so often I still do not talk a ton with those I do not know. However, when people get to know me – I do not shut up. I blab on constantly about anything; video games I like, social issues, pets, you name it. I often enjoy talking, and it helps when the other person is also an anxious person because they understand the troubles.