HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

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Fading Love

I believe to some point that the love in a relationship can fade, but it takes time for it to happen and also a lack of interest for the relationship. Relationships don’t always work out the way you want them to and all though you put all your time and effort to make something work, if the second person doesn’t do the same the relationship is doomed to failure. In my personal viewing i think that passion never fades, but we stop looking for it or forget how to find it. In other word it not faded but hidden. My grandparents were always so passionate in their relationship and everyone could see it. in the last couple of years the vibe around them was different, we wouldn’t see my grandfather arriving with flowers or my grandmothers favorite drink. he would get home and sit on the table waiting for food. my grandmother would try being affectionate and humorous around him but he would never give in. This went on for a time until my grandmother decided a divorce was best. My grandmother never stopped feeling the passion of the relationship she was trying to make it work but the effort was to much for only her to handle. It may be considered to be an age thing, because they are a little old but that is just crazy talk for me. Just recently my grandfather has been trying to gain my grandmothers love back, now he knows where the passion was and is doing his part of the effort to make it work. My grandmother never lost her feeling for him, he is after all “her true love” as she says. Seeing my grandparents relationship made me realize that love is passionate and if the love is true the passion never fades. Passion gets hidden away but only if you let it hide.

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To Betray or Not to Betray

In the world of romantic relationships that are many things that can cause a strain in that relationships. These includes money concerns, distance issues, and at times betrayal. Betrayal is one of the worst ways that could cause an end to a relationship of any kind. By taking the self-quiz of “How Often Do You Betray Romantic Partners?” I received a low score of 6, which means that I am an infrequent betrayer. These scores accurately represent of who I am. Because for me doing any form of betrayal to someone is a big no no. I’ve been in the receiving end of being betrayed countless times to the point where I practically do not trust anyone. So by me doing a form of betrayal would make me a hypocrite for doing a thing I despise. Now there are many ways in which a person can deal with betrayal. Some people would confront the persona and call them out. Others would have a small discussion with them and ultimately give them a second chance. Then there are those who do nothing and just let it continue to happen out of fear of being alone. For me personally I prefer to do the option of do nothing with a twist. I essentially cut them out of my life. In the past I have given people more than a second chance, and they always end up doing the samething to break that trust. It got to the point where I stopped caring and do nothing but walk away. It might not be the best solution to betrayal, but it’s the best option that works for. Many would say that discussing and second chances is the better option. But after dealing with it time after time, somewhere along the line I decided it was too much of hassle to continuously “deal with it” and that it would be easier on my mind to just to cut ties.