HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives


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Friends

I agree that, in most cases, family relationships are more stable than friend relationships. I’ve had many friendships come and go, but I have always maintained a stable relationship with the vast majority of my family. Family relationships are generally more supportive of each other in the long run, especially when more important events happen in a family member’s life. Whereas with friendships it’s understood that family emergencies take the ultimate priority. Although I would say in general romantic relationships are more stable than friendship relationships. This is with more established relationships compared to shorter, fleeting relationships. I’ve never really had conversational topics that were “off limits” with friends that I can think of. With some friends topics would come up that never did with other friends, but it was never a case of those topics being off limits. With some friends nearly any topic could come up or be open for discussion, but with other friends those topics simply never came up. Or with some friends our conversations will focus more on whatever our common interests are generally. Although I feel the ability to cover a wide range of conversation topics in a relationship indicates feelings of closeness and comfortability around the other person. Talking things through and being open about subjects is a good way to strengthen and create more trust within a relationship. I’ve had some friendships that I kept over long distances, and some friendships that ended fairly quickly after a geographic distance is created. Even the friendships that I have kept over long distances are ultimately strained, as it is difficult to keep in contact frequently without proximity. When I was younger I used to have friends on online games that I would talk to almost every day for years at a time, but over time once we stopped playing those games the friendships would end. Even if we had other forms of communication, if we weren’t keeping in contact on a frequent basis it is difficult to keep a strong and stable friendship or relationship.


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Friends

I do agree with the textbook friendship are easier to break up than family or romantic partners. First, friendships are less stable at least for me that is how they feel. Last year, I was just in high school and although I do still speak with some friends our communication is not as constant as it used to be. However, the idea of separating for a short time, but still keeping in contact was really good in that I found out who my friends truly were. Once they had freedom the freedom that they were not used to many experienced good or bad things while enjoying their freedom. I would have never joined them in some of the choices they had made. A family member is difficult to break up with well because first of all it may not have been interest what united both of us, but it’s basically our genes we know each other because we are related. If it had to do with siblings no matter how much we may not get along we always seem to work together without even realizing it or forget what we were initially complaining or fighting about. I would have to say friendship are similar to romantic relationships. The introduction is the same introducing yourself, getting to know each other and in the end enjoying spending time with each other. Of course, the only difference would be attraction which is why it’s much more difficult to break up with a romantic partner because aside from liking them as one would with friends and family members there is also attraction which prevents one from wanting to end the relationship. Friendships seem to come and go


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F is for Friends

There are many qualities that people take into consideration when determining whether an individual should be considered a friend. These traits include those of being trustworthy and an dependable individual. The self-quiz “What Kind of Friend Are You?”  showcases whether the person taking the quiz would be considered a close trustworthy and dependable friend. For those who score between 11-15 were considered to be exceptionally trustworthy, 6-10 moderate, and 0-5 low levels of trustworthiness. So it was no surprise when the results from the quiz showed that I was a type of person who was exceptionally trustworthy and dependable. For me I value trust and honesty to the fullest extent. I take all secrets to the grave and try to accomplish everything I promised someone I was going to do. Generally I put the well being of my friends in front of my own well being. The reason for this is through the phrase of “treat others the way you want to be treated.” Personally I do not want others to feel inferior and useless the way others have made me in the past. That is why I tend to put others first in front of me. Many consider this to be a disadvantage. I don’t. I see it as an opportunity to gain someone’s trust and be able to have a friendship with them. It is through bonding that I believe would allow people to grow. In order to be able to reach out towards more individuals. In order to be able to be seen as trustworthy to them, it’s best to just spend more time with them. To make plans and to not throw them to the curb by pursuing other plans. I see this as the best way to grow closer to others. Yet many do not feel the same way and would constantly flake out on plans with no warning whatsoever.