HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives


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perceiving Others

Adrian Arellano

Hcom 214

Professor Rodger

March 5, 2018

 

One situation that i badly misperceived someone, was at one at my laundromats.  He was a white male and a latino man, at the time my landlord rose up my rent so sooner or later i was expecting someone to collect the money. I was pretty annoyed the whole day and really upset with my landlord, other than that he wanted to talk about some other issues he had on his mind. So first, the latino gentleman came in and i was going to attend to him, but then right after the white male came right behind him and i jumped right to him. I told the latino male to give a few minutes so I can talk to this landlord. So i approached the white male and told him why he had raised rent and what he needed to talk about, the white male was totally confused and told me “Dude I just wanna wash my uniform” so i apologized and turned back to the latino male. I apologized to him as well for the wait and asked “him what can do for you”? He told me that he’s here to collect his money, and why did i think  the white male was the landlord, I was totally embarrassed and i did not know what to say. Just the way they both looked i just assumed the white male wa the landlord, i’ve never felt so ashamed.

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emotions

Adrian Arellano

Hcom 214

Professor Rodger

Feb 16, 2018
Seeing this video made me feel i take some things in life for granted, the kids in this video dont have much, but yet they do whatever it takes to make the best of there day, the best o there life. So it’s incredible to see some people when they have nothing but in reality they have tons of extraordinary stuff.  This saying means that the more incredible stuff in life tries to move you, it lures you to keep trying and trying until you get to that certain goal, it creates an adventure for you. When in the other hand when stuff just comes to you, to your  shoulder it won’t be the same as if you would to try and take time to achieve that certain goal. One emotional event that made an impact in my life, was the death of my grandfather, he taught me and my brother everything we know about business and I felt i didn’t get to spend as much time with him as i would of hoped, i was devastated both mentally and physically. I would really now how to express my emotions via text or email, because i feel that i would show the right message on emotions that i’m trying to convoy among  that specific person. Me if it consists with the right person, for example my mother i would show all emotion possible, but if it was just a friend i would normally do that non emotion figure that guys normally do. So there is a huge difference on my emotion sharing, and personally i chose my mom. Since it allows me to vent to her and let all my emotion out and feel,more better


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Romantic Partners

Adrian Arellano

Hcom 214

Professor Rodger

Feb 23, 2018

 

When it comes to love, i should know that i’m terrible at it i can’t stay committed, i admitted. I left the one girl how loved me for who I really am and she was down for me i threw it all  away. But i was with her for a very long time so from personal experience i can say it does certainly fades away, it does not lack passion though, you just want to meet other people that’s it.  I have dated someone out of ethnic group and its really weird i mean i did learn tons of new extraordinary stuff, but we just did not have anything in common. A lot of people did not expect us to date since were totally different people. But i can say i feel way more comfortable when i date someone inside my ethnic group i can be more expressive and speak my language for profoundly.  What comes to communication,  trust and expressing how we felt. I wasn’t very good at it at the end of the relationship, i pretty much did not care for as much and it was just a bad habit. In a relationship my ex taught me it’s all for one and that one is us, from there i’ve earning how to be more expressive and trusting and more importantly community towards the people i love. I would never use technology to determine or even to begin a relationship, i A very old fashion i prefer to talk face to face and meet people face to face.


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self concept

 

Self concept

 

Yes i totally believe that the media represents who we are but only in certain ways, regarding your interest and likes. For example if one really watches espn a lot you must think they really are into sports and you also think they would play it as well, but the majority of the time, in my experience that’s what i would assume and it would turn out they were not athletic what so ever, they’re just really into sports but they just don’t like playing it. Sadly i am somewhat dismissive of somethings, i’m the type of person who just lets things slide and move on since im am really use to things happening on and on.  I feel once off my horse during a rodeo, it was pretty terrible, evryn saw. I restored myself by talking to someone and just make them laugh with me but not at me. I would label myself as indecisive, its gotten me and a lot people that i miss hurt because i just can’t seem to make my mind up on what i want. I never had to worry about people looking me up online, since i distance myself from social media, I’ve always like being a lowkey person. Well if someone who is hiring thinks its weird i don’t have any social media i would consider making just for the heck of it.  I would say that too much information sharing when only knowing each other for a while isn’t a good idea. It’s always best for one to hold down personal conversation for another day and then another. That way you have tons of information to share and be a really interesting person.

 


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Family Members

Through the years i’ve learned many ways among communication when my family get together. Meaning I have a different bond with one another which means communicating in a different way. But there is one type of communication that i share the same with all my family members and its that greeting we do when we see each other. For my female aunts and cousins we shake their hand and a kiss on the cheek, as for the male member we slaut with a handshake and a hug. It’s a custom we always do everyone has to greet each other. Lately i have started to feel more connected to my family member. I wanna say the spark tohow are family started to associate with each other more often was my grandmother being sick, when that happens we all started to see each other more often. I rely my feeling and problems to my cousins, more than my aunts or uncles. I feel that my cousin understand me more since they are my age and can relate more. The way I balance my feelings towards others is i try not to bring them up for then I wouldn’t be comfortable.When it comes being raised in two type of families it can be really difficult to communicate with both sides. From personal experience, my moms side of the family follow a different religion which affects me , since they forbid for me to associate with my dads side of the family. So it is pretty difficult sometimes. At the moment i really do enjoy the moment i have with my family, I Would prefer a different