HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

Friendship (Prompt 8)

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Friends-with-benefits, the definition provided by Urban Dictionary explains it as “2 close friends who think it would be fun to have sex with each other again and again. Until 1 falls in love and gets their heart broken when the other doesn’t want a relationship”. By definition its given that someone will develop feelings in the relationship but I’m here to help prevent this from happening. The easiest way to manage a friends-with-benefits relationship is to significantly reduce the time you spend with the other person. Attempt to keep going out at a minimum so your friend does not think your outings are dates. Keep couple related things out of sight and out of mind, do not allow the other person to leave a toothbrush or clothes at your house. Also try to manage how many times you guys do the deed, make sure it’s often enough that you’re both satisfied but don’t be excessive. You should also only be at the other person’s house twice a week, anything more may turn a routine into a relationship. Assess the situation with your friend frequently, let them know what you guys are, so feelings aren’t hurt nor confused. Its okay to hang out and be friends once in a while but limit it to just a few times a month. The less contact you have with the person the better, when you do talk and text, point out people you think are attractive or people you may potentially engage in a relationship with so they know you are still just friends. The reason you want to take these precautions is because you don’t want to hurt your friend. Remember that you guys were just friends before things got a little more intimate and that if anything, you need preserve your friendship before anything else.

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