HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

Active Listening (Prompt 8)

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The majority of people I talk to and engage in conversations with, are people which I see as respectable and genuine. I like to believe that I am a people-oriented listener and at worse, an action-oriented listener, but for the majority of the time I listen to whomever is speaking and try to offer positive feedback or reinforcement. I try to offer genuine help and listen to the person’s problem but there is always that one special case. I have an acquaintance who is just so painfully obnoxious and unbearable to be around, this person is one of the few people who I selectively listen to, if I do at all. The reason I perceive them like this is because they are blatantly disrespectful and lack common manners which is why I do not pay much attention to what they say. I could have avoided this selective listening behavior by either turning it to pseudo listening or completely avoiding the person altogether. My choices of types of listening that I can apply to this person are limited because of their narcissistic listening. This person will use any opportunity to change the conversation back to them and completely ignore others thoughts or ideas and will usually escalate to aggressive listening. When I first met this person I applied my normal listening strategies and tried to understand them and establish commonalities, but soon found there were none because of the kind of person they were. In special cases I believe it is alright to (employ) negative listening strategies to maintain your own mental sanity and not respond to the conversation in a negative manner. Personally, I believe it is more polite to pseudo listen or selectively listen to a person like this rather than replying to them with anger or annoyance because it is beyond their understanding anyway.

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