There is a recent situation, I would even go as far to say just about every time I talk to this person, of where I am a selective listener. One of my roommates that I live with is a fairly critical and bossy person, so usually when I listen to him talking to me I only really pay attention if its something important. I would rather not hear any critiquing of the way that I cook my food or what not and don’t want to be ordered around by this person to do stuff that he should have done himself. I will admit this has to do with my bad perception of him from long ago, but he has done nothing to help with this situation. I try my best to listen to others no matter what they say, even if I disagree greatly with what they say because its rude to ignore others. However, no matter how hard I try I will admit I have a really hard time paying my fullest attention to this person. He seemed like a kind and respectful person at first but slowly became a rude, very critical, and controlling person.
A way that I could avoid this selective listening behavior is if I reshape my perception of this person. I can set aside our differences and once again open my ears and be attentive to what he says. I can also give him feedback when he is talking to me about different things instead of just saying stuff like “Wow thats crazy” or “Dang that sucks”. I can also try to be more understanding of what may be going through what he is going through, since that may be why he is acting this way. It will take a lot of effort but I will try my best to do so.