I have an acquaintance, let’s say his name is Ted. Ted has been known as the person who just babbles on and on about provocative, unintelligent, useless things. Unfortunately because of this, I have put him in something I like to call “The Bubble”. The bubble is nothing to be proud of. It something that has not only been used for Ted.
The bubble is this imaginary place I put people in so I don’t have to listen to them. So, when Ted comes in the room, I begin to see him as if he is in the bubble. While he is in there, I cannot seem to make out the words he is saying. All I hear is a slight mumble sound coming from afar, representing his conversation.
Some of my friends were more more patient than me and would sit and converse with him for almost an hour. I, however, was no so big of a person at the time. Until, I found out why so many people would give him the time of day.
I had found out a few weeks later that he has been suffering with depression, anxiety, and ADHD. I was astounded. I knew that there was something a little off about him, but I would have never guessed that he was going through problems that could have felt unfixable. Later that week I had made the time to really get to know him, and he shared with me how he always feels alone if he isn’t constantly talking to someone. He told me that he knew not everybody listened to what he had to say but he just never could stop sharing.
Ever since that day, I make it a point to say hello to him and to ask him how his day is going. But the biggest thing that I took away from that day was to never judge or put someone in a category until you really take the time to understand them.