To me, being heard means being taken seriously. Therefore, what I consider an effective listener is someone who immediately shows interest in what the other person is saying. This means that the listener is showing that he/she is attentive and actively make efforts to understand what I said by making immediately comments about the topic I rise-up. This really shows that my message went across to the other party correctly and the listener is interested to hear me.
A great example of the greatest active listeners in my life is my dad. He is an easy person that I can approach and start sharing my feelings, concerns, happiness, plans, etc. To me this means a lot because anytime I am facing a challenge, I right away know who is my go to go person and knowing I won’t be judge for my actions. Instead, my dad right away opens a confident environment allowing me to feel heard and can attentively give me an advice or feedback, which this enables me to get confidence in expressing myself. Further, the fact that he can just listen to me and give me solutions to my situations makes me feel that I have someone to count with on the good and bad times.