HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

Emotions Prompt #12

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One time that I used encounter avoidance was with a guy, we were friends, but then he told me that he had feelings for me and since I did not felt the same way I was honest with him. I hoped that we would remain friends, but he said that he did not want to talk to me if it was only as a friend, so we stopped talking. We were in the same high school so I started to avoid the places where I knew that he would be because it was uncomfortable seeing him and pretending that nothing had happened.

I usually used encounter structuring with my mother because I cannot talk to her about religion, everytime that religion comes up as one of our topics we ended up in a discussion. I used to speak with her about religion, and although I never said that I doubted about our religion, she felt like I did not believe in God anymore so now I try not to talk to her about religion.

For attention focus, the only situation I can think about it is similar to the example of the book. During my classes most of the times I focus entirely on the professor because if I am not actively watching the professor, I would easily get distracted by what others are doing.  

A time that I can think about when I had to deactivate my emotions completely was when one of my cousins died. I was like nine years old, and my cousin that died was the closest cousin of my age, we had grown up together, and although our parents had some issues, we never let that affect us. But the day that she died, and another family member told me that my cousin had been run over and that she had passed away I could not believe. I wanted to pretend as nothing had happened. I didn’t want to think about it, so I went to school like if everything was normal. When I was at school, my teachers try to send me back to my house because they did not believe that I was okay, but they did not understand that I wanted to stay at school because I did not want to feel and be reminded of what had happened.

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