Like many other people, I have used encounter avoidance when I have needed to avoid an ex. I would make sure I don’t go anywhere that they spend most of their time at or avoid going to any events that they might be at.
My immediate family and I use encounter structuring the most when we have big family events like thanksgiving or Christmas with all of our other family. We use encounter structuring because of the different religious and political views that we have in our entire family. We wanted to prevent any arguments from happening.
I personally think that I lack attention focus. I get distracted way too easily and cannot focus on one thing for that long. I feel like I use attention focus the most when I am in class and instead of focusing on certain little things that my professors do, I focus on the material being taught.
If you’re close with me, then you would know that I do no cry easily. I think this is a way of deactivation that I use. I don’t really allow myself to cry as I get older and in that way I use deactivation.