HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

Perceiving Others Prompt 3

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I believe we all can contribute experiences towards being an outgrouper at least once in our lives. One experience of my own was when I moved schools in fourth grade. Now, fourth grade doesn’t seem like a big deal, but that experience has helped shaped me who I am today. Moving to a different school had proven to be difficult for me considering that I wasn’t very outgoing or eager to start all over. Being an outgrouper to an entire school was challenging. I did not have any friends to greet excitedly when they come to school. I didn’t know of any of the happenings that usually went down in the school, for example, weekly school assemblies and spirit days. I had to learn a whole set of different rules of the class and the entire school. The equipment and technology was more advanced and plentiful considering I had just came from a school less fortunate than that. The people there were even a little different from my old school. Their attitudes, even, were different. And me? How was I too acclimate into all of this. It was so much for me to take all in for my adolescent mind. So now, here I am in what seems like a totally different world and I feel stranded. My own self-esteem took a slight hit in the way that I seemed to subconsciously ostracize from the ingroupers before they even had a chance to get to know me. That affected my acclimation into this whole new school and it lasted quite a bit of time. It seems that I perceived the ingroupers as an already impenetrable wall that there’s no way that I can fit in with them. It wasn’t before my future best friend of thirteen years changed my mind about the whole situation. He brought me out of my bubble to make me realize that this is where I needed to be.

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