HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

Blog #2: Perceiving Others

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There has been many experiences in my life where I have misperceived a person. I feel that it is a common mistake as human beings. I think the biggest misperception that I have had is assuming that people who know how to work computers and electronics really well are the geeky or nerdy type of people. In reality, working with electronics does not define anything about a person.

The main stereotype that I receive is “being blonde”. There has been a stereotype for years that blondes are not as smart as others with different colored hair. I do not really get offended by comments that I hear about it because I know it is a joke, but I know some blondes do get offended by the jokes and comments. It is true that I have blonde hair, but the color of someone’s hair has nothing to do with how smart they are.

I think I most feel like an outgrouper when I came to college my freshman year and did not know a single person. It was such a new feeling that I have never experienced before and it was a huge change for me to go through. I felt like an outgrouper because it seemed like I was the only one that was isolated from everyone else, which definitely affected my self-esteem. Luckily, I had the best roommates that became my bestfriends and made me feel like an ingrouper.

An experience I have had where punctuation was an issue was when my sister and I would argue about borrowing each others’ clothes. It would be a conflict because we would disagree with the amount of times we borrowed from each other and think the other person was being unfair. The way that it would be resolved was making sure that we each borrow the same amount of clothes as the other does and to let each other know when we are instead of doing it secretly.

Out of the five personality traits, in myself I most like the openness I have. Throughout my life I have had to be very open with other opinions or ides other than my own. It is a very strong trait to have as a person that lives in the society that we live in today.

Coming from a religious and traditional family, I meet people with very different values and beliefs everyday. I was raised to not look down on others that have different views from me and instead learn about them and why they believe what they do. There are definitely challenges when defending my own beliefs, but I try to be very open to talking about our different opinions.

I think that the main people that I have negative Gestalt for are waiters or workers at a place I am in. If they were rude to me or did not do their job in a nice way then their first impression to me would not be good. The main people I have positive Gestalt for people that I have not met but heard good things about. If my friend was introducing me to their friend then I would already have positive Gestalt for them since they are friends with my friend.

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