HCOM 214: Interpersonal COMM & Conflict

Learning interpersonal communication skills to improve every part of our lives

Avoiding conflict

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I am not the kind of person who likes to be involved in any type of conflict.  Whenever possible I try to avoid it and when not possible I try and accommodate to the other persons perspective.  That is because I am not the kind of person who likes to have people mad at them.  I like to be in good terms with everyone and I like to be the nicer/bigger person in the situation and help avoid a big fight.  I don’t really like having to argue especially for something not even worth the effort.

On the very rare occasions that me and my parents have a misunderstanding  we don’t necessarily fight about things that I may have done wrong unless I did something super bad.  They just tell me what it is that I did wrong and why they think that it was a wrong.  When they are talking I tend to just sit there and listen to what it is they have to say and only if I am asked to chime in on the situation I will talk.  If not I don’t talk only because if it isn’t such a big deal I would rather leave it as is than to go and make a small misunderstanding into a big fight.  In the end of the day they are my parents and are hopefully always going to be looking out for me.

If I fight with a friend we both tend to accommodate to one another idea or compromise depending on the situation.  Sometimes we even avoid the situation all together.  If we fight over something dumb and meaningless we don’t really put much effort and just ignore it because it means nothing to us and we know that our friendship is more valuable in most situations that aren’t life changing.

If there is some form of conflict between me and a work place or school I try to see if I can avoid the situation or I will try and accommodate with what they are telling me because I don’t like to be the rude person who doesn’t listen and it is in both situations a manner that needs to be handled professionally.  I would not like to be seen as a bad person in either situation especially because in the work place you can get fired and they may sometimes give future employers a bad example of how you are in the workplace.

 

 

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2 thoughts on “Avoiding conflict

  1. I think i have the same characteristics as you when it comes to conflicts. I try to avoid part or all completely. I do things that i know or believe will never cause problems.

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  2. I can understand not trying to confront conflict i used to accommodate to people when it came to conflict. But in the last three months i have pushed myself to confront conflict . Every once in a while i still find myself accommodating to people when conflict happens if it just is not worth arguing.

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